Well, honestly I know of a couple of reasons off the bat why Successful Black Women can't find a good man, but I won't get too deep into that.
What I will say (and I may catch some flack for this) is that what SOME Black women interpret as successful on either side of the scope, is not always what the general public would consider successful.
I am talking about all things considered: Education, Career, Financial and Social and even Spiritual status all play a part, but how much is usually what Black women tend to misconstrue.
Growing up (nowadays) the hope is for kids to be taught to love all and not to discriminate. But they also tend to gravitate to what they know and are used to. So I was used to being around black women for the most part. But I stated dating outside my race almost immediately when I was old enough to date (lol)
I will say that my preference has leaned towards me being with a black woman (everyone has preferences so it's not discriminating) But history will show that black women and I just don't work out, and I am almost 90% dating an outside or mixed race/culture.
I realized why... I think it's because honestly there are slim pickings on successful, educated and non-opportunist women out there. So what's a brother to do?
Well that is another topic, I hope this video does some justice... for now lol.
Never, ever, ever, ever...ever. Unless you are ready to assume the position.
First of all, let us understand what the word "Assume" means.
According to our good ol' boy(s) and/or girl(s) (...not to assume) at MERRIAM-WEBSTER it defines as:
to take as granted or true : suppose "I assume he'll be there"
Yeah....Well anyways, I was taken aback when someone of importance made assumptions repeatedly, even when I provided in the past, an ample amount of reasoning not to doubt. So what you must do, my dear bloggers, is remove yourself from that situation, until it gets situated...you know what I mean. Why waste your precious time on someone else's fallacy? Below is a video I found showing just a little bit of when it's not safe to assume:
My boy RedHead, repping DMV and rolling up and down I-95 to NY and other places on occasion, did this awesome track...I just had to Blog about it before I left outta my main office for anticipation of my trip to Miami (whoa wait till I Blog about THAT!)
But any HOO check him out and check out the singer Bonita Canady who's voice I am in love with!!! This is real MUSIC!
REFRESHING! Ahhhhhhhhhhhh (like the type of refreshing you get after a ginger ale on a hot summer day....in Arizona....with no clouds in the sky... AHHHHHHHH!
So I have a problem. Don't they say that the first step in curing an addiction is admitting to the problem. Okay so yeah, I have one...well technically 2! Of all my umpteen years on earth, and with every evil I have been exposed to, I have abstained and avoided for the life of me, to steer clear of drugs, alcohol and all major unnecessary evils and have thus prevailed...or yet have I.
About 2 years ago, well wait let me get back even further, about 15 years ago, my parents did the unthinkable, it was bitter sweet at the time...they bought for me a Nintendo Entertainment System, which they regulated thoroughly; my time and usage.
Fast forward; circa 2007, I bought the Playstation 3 arguabley one of the most advanced gaming systems in the world at that time, and several months later I bought the game Call of Duty: Modern Warfare.
*Sigh*
Little did I know it was the beginning of a rough ride for me. I played it sporadically over the course of three months, all told for a bout a total of 10 days, 16 hours and 31 minutes as recorded by my playstation.com profile.
11.10.09 signified a date that is probably still cripling me. I went out (at 12:30am) and bought my copy of Modern Warfare 2...after coming from the airport to pick my Good Friend/Brother/DJ/Producer, AJ*Swizzy up. What a re-introduction to the U.S. homie.
He witnessed me play the game for 2hrs before hitting the hay. After that, it was futile to stay away from it. Hours, upon hours of gameplay. on a 62inch 1080p flat screen TV, with Dolby Digital Surround Sound is nothing less than AMAZING!
Relationships got rocky because of this game, if I was with a girl, she'd probably leave me. Everyone that calls me, male, female, family, friend or foe all received an attention deficit from me. I have been less productive with the rest of my projects, not noticeable, but there are small signs. I'm generally motivated to do one thing and one thing only. Play Modern Warfare 2. For some men...it has been a bigger problem with their significant others as seen in the video below, by a woman who actually supports the game:
In essence, this is a phenomenon. It has to be, it's the only way I can explain how I woke up on thanksgiving day, thanked GOD for letting me have this game, and for letting my online connection stay secure and glitch free in order to play it. and then proceed to let the game take precedence over the festivities. I didn't even take a shower till later that evening, after dinner, and only because I was contemplating going out. But that quickly changed, why you ask?
DUHHHHH!
I had to play it some more. It's not just myself, have a few friends like HK and P-eZY who share a similar infatuation, but I don't think it's as deep as mine. On a side note...I have dominated HK's record on this game, but he begs to differ. Sadly.
In conclusion though, I will say one thing...at least whomever I talk to in the future will know exactly what I am doing and who I am doing it with (PAUSE, where applicable)...Tiger Woods should take a hint.
