"Love", "Luv", "Luh", "Lub"...it's all the same thing, right?

ehnn...WRONG!

Now as the holiday season swings steadily into gear, we start seeing the escalation of couples and new romances forming. Whether it stems from forceful blind dates; to one-night-stands from the club turning into seasonal seduction; to logging into your old blackplanet.com account (or migente.com and getting back in touch with that hot "thang thang": it's kind of sort of the 'norm' as they days get colder...and we haven't even switched the clocks back yet! (Thanks George Double-U...we know it was for the kids).

Well anyhow, this is the time when you are going to see a lot of shifts in attitudes of women and men. Social life slows down a bit, love making increases (check the stats) and feelings get made and consequently hurt more frequently......all in the name of the "L" word.

It just depends on exactly which "L" word you are referring to. And here is my brief synopsis of the popular ones:

Love: Now this as defined in good ol' Merriam-Webster's Dictionary is: "Strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties" cool...pretty self explanatory, we'll roll with that!

Luv: This is when it starts gettin' tricky. The Urban Dictionary defines this bad boy as: "A casual way of saying you really like someone without freaking them out by saying I love you. Commonly used by people early on in relationships, where it is too soon to say I love you." Just to add to that it is most effectively used during text messages or emails...of course as there is no valid phonetic distinction between the two....okay as Jigga would say "...onto the next one..."

Luh: Okay, so this is usually used in a more playful demeanor whether the individual is genuinely loved or not. For example it could be used after an argument between a couple in love where the male for example ensues an apology (because by nature we are usually wrong);

"...I'm sorry baby...you know I 'Luh' you guuurl. Now come on let's make some more chir-ren..." (all ebonic spellings and erroneous sentence syntax implied)

Lub: This word is usually used by women and is therefore thought of more as a cute way of demeaning the word "Love". Also heavily used in text and/or instant messaging. It is the farthest thing you want to say to a woman in a serious relationship.

Hopefully with the above lessons on the various connotations of that "L" word, the world will be a more amicable place to be in...it all just depends on what level you wanna take it to!

So, in conclusion we should all make "love" not war, and if you're diggin' that chic fellas, and it just so happens to be V-day and a couple of months since you've known her don't hesitate to tell her that you think you "luv" her through a quick text (That's if you wanna take it there...but most of the guys are thinking: 'sheeeeeeeed'). And ladies, same goes for you. When you're dating that man and you just cussed him out and made him feel like 3 week old doo-doo but u realized u were wrong; throw him that text and tell him you "luh" him...do it at your own risk though! And for those that just keep getting stuck with the corny stick...you know your girl/man says that all their friends feel you are corny, and you wanna kinda play with their emotions a bit, especially when it's super early... hit 'em back with I "lub" you and a smile....whatever you do, do it courageously!

on that note..... "GOTTA LOVE LUB them REDSKINS.....HAHAHAHAHA"

Friends, how many of us have them? Let's be FRIENDS (or not)

***WARNING*** ***WARNING*** ***WARNING***

Brace yourselves if you dare, this is going to be a long, descriptive and quite possible, abrasive BLOG entry!

Well of late I've been going through more than my fair share of being pulled in 100,000 different positions per nanosecond...literally! And this is usually helping or benefiting everybody but yours truly.

"Surely you jest!?"

No...I'm dead serious, as a matter of fact, in the past while working for a pretty cushy organization, making more than a kid my age should probably be making, I took TIME off, on several occasions, to help out friends in far-less-than-dire need.

"How cool is THAT?"

Not so cool, especially when these 'friends' take those types of actions for granted. Now there is the possibility that everyone one acquainted with me is going to read this blog entry and assume that it is about them, when I'm really only talking about an amount of people that I can count on about two hands and a foot.

"Chuuch"

A rather small figure considering that I have about 8,000+ contacts in my brand new iPhone 3G S..."ess" for sexy as my friend Laura Song says (very shameless plug...what can ya' do?). Sorry for that minor digression, I do that often... yes I know, thank you...sheesh!

Anyways I have this growing habit of helping people out and then getting 'stuck'...like stuck stuck. You know, like out in the middle of I-95 with nothing but socks (and my iPhone) on me...in 36.5 degree weather...and it's raining. This happens way too often, even with my so-called 'loved ones' (what exactly is that anyways?) and I am just seeking help for that. How do I stop? Do you have this problem?

Well it gets worse, because of who and/or what I am (as society has so labelled me, trust that) if I don't help certain people, then I'm looked at as either selfish, typical, a hater, mean, pathetic, juvenile, unsupportive or all of the aforementioned and then some.

"...tell 'em why you mad, son..."

I'm not mad, I am just stating my case. But this is what I mean. Sometimes if you speak; you have said too much, if you are quiet; you ain't saying #hit. *SIGH*

I am almost compelled not to go on...I need some strength. OK, here goes.

I see it happening most to friends that get 'comfortable' with me doing things for them, and they forget the simple things...the SIMPLE things like saying "thank you". I mean am I wrong to ask for just that back?

One person had the nerve to tell me, after doing them a favor in so many words: "...well if you are gonna give help to someone, you shouldn't expect it back..." - hmmm and so to that person I say:

"Hi, friend......... :) "

(oh go ahead and click it if you have figured it out)

But yes, I am at a point where I am going to just stop being so "supportive, helpful, insightful and understanding" oh wait...I forgot; I haven't been any of these things according to the few on both hands and my one feet (perhaps) are you with me??! LOL.

How does one who is sooooooooo used to doing for others, and rarely have things get done for them act? One time I was blessed with an undisclosed amount of money because of a motorcycle accident...do you want to know what a 'friend' of mine told me after months went by and we got into an argument:

"...well, I figured you were gonna break me off with some cheddar..."

For my urbanly challenged readers, that don't really mean cheese. But yeah, it was said. I've been approached with the most ridiculous and amazing types of encounters but none more amazing when it comes to money, favors and requests for help!

I even had a situation where I had a live show and a friend offered to get me something to consume afterwards so that I could get some energy back (because if you know me, I expend a lot of energy performing at my shows). So I was delighted, but not expecting them to cover the bill. Which they didn't. So when I asked for the damage, I was give my price with almost 90% inflation 'tax' added on.

"..are you freeking kidding me?..."

I wish I was...hee hee hee, I wish I was. However, this individual even went as far as to argue with me on how I was wrong for being upset about this inflated price tacked onto my food and how they've done this and that and a 3rd and maybe a 4th for me...(which once all added up really only counts for ONE thing), and they felt that was sufficient in light of the incomparable 100 or so things I did for them...but again, that's just me throwing 'salt in their eyes'.....

In summation, I just wanna know where all my real friends at? The ones that don't just hit me up when they need something whether it's money, getting in the club, a place to stay, a place to record, then I don't see, or hear from you for 5 months. It's sad, but it is, as they say, what it is........(I hate that saying)

Oh yeah I'm gonna update this blog more once YOU or your friends start subscribing, because I'm saying how the hell are you going to know when I make another entry, so that you can here the rantings and babblings of myself and my world as told from my mind body and s-s-s-soul!

"WHEW!"

Okay cya later oh and follow me here aaaaaaaaand on twitter here: @KingKan

oh and to those I've recently been talking to about the aforementioned topic, it's obviously not about you, because you helped me realize I was not being crazy about thinking that way. It is for you to see how discussion can come into fruition as courageous discussion.

Uyai Ekepnyong, on single life - The 5year plan etc.

So my younger sister, whom I so love (but probably don't show it as often as I should-bad Akan) was IMing me on google chat and we were talking about relationships and how I've handled all of mine, and the pursuit of finding that one. Below is an excerpt of a portion of what she was schooling me on....remember I am the older brother lol.

"...a lot of people don't like being single

but if you're never alone to just think a bit

how would youknow what you really need?

need time to process all your relationships

what went wrong, when did it go wrong, was it me, was it her?

how can I change the scenerios... your normal questions

but you need the breathing time

I bet and know one you have that time alone, next girl you get with will be the one

Also- you have all these folks you party with, how can you possibly be alone??

you got family, friends

and a lot going on in your life

you don't need unecessary drama to add to it

life is tough enough with a chick adding the drama

gotta be on the same page... starting with do y;all have the same values in common?

if you see y'all don't, don't even waste your time

ask a woman what her 5 year plan is - what's yours??

if a man can't answer that I keep it moving

alone is good If you're looking to settle - you hang with the settled people,
learn a few things and get mentally prepared..."

This was unabridged and verbatim. Again I love my sister, she is so smart, but sometimes I hate that she is so smart, because I feel like I should be the one giving her the relationship advice. Oh well. I'm getting a little bit tired of the single life. On some real 'ish' a brother is ready to have kids and settle down with the one.

King Kan & Product Performing Live!!! October 8th

Now I don't like to brag about being the best rapper I know, or having lyrical content and subject matter and a flow unequivocal to any in the DMV area (that would be DC, MD and VA to my international viewers) but this show coming up on October 8th 2009 at the Expo in 1928 9th street from 9-2am, is going to be just as energetic, explosive and eclectic as all shows I do, because you see I only get better and better with time! :) I say this with all humility!

I digress but never-the-less please come out and support me, Product & A-Squad I don't ask for much...just to spread my passion of music so that all can see it and witness for themselves!

Oh yeah it's brought to you in part by my good friends Aliya and Ro with Mindbolic & Bubbleistic Ent.