Don't Ask, Don't Tell.......... Makes me wanna GAG!

Don't take that the wrong way. In essence, I support the notion to repeal the aforementioned mandate sanctioned way back in 1993 by President Clinton which was formed as a step towards systematic acceptance of LGBT's in the Armed Forces.

It was one of the items brought up during the State of the Union address by President Barack Obama. I said I wasn't going to do a review of the actual address, as every Tom, Dick and Harry has their say in it, so I decided to touch on some of the issues that were roused up.
The repeal is an even better way to say "Hey we accept you as the humans that you are, and your right to serve openly in the army with or without your sexual orientation disclosed"

I personally don't see the big deal in why the repeal should not be granted, just as long as LGBT community and everyone else respect each other's rights and laws.


On a side note...it's kinda like relationships that don't work out with that whole don't ask don't tell B.S. You know, you never get an answer if you weren't 'asked' for it. So how would one know what to ask for without potentially crossing a line for asking? Food for thought, perhaps for a more in depth blog on that topic, on a later date.


Meanwhile, you can find the article on hopes for a repeal at the link here.

Mariah Carey - Up Out My Face ft. Nicki Minaj

Nice video...you can hate all you want on either female, but you cannot deny their talent (LOL)

ha ha but yeah this is a potential anthem, I presume for the ladies...the title is very appropriate for girl vs. boy or even girl vs. girl beefs....

'...get up outta my faaaaaaaaaace...'

Rock on with ya bad self.....

radioactive from dj raghkstar at Letsmix.com.

Here is something different... A clever mix of my non traditional genre of music. Major shouts out to the purveyor: DJ raghkstar

For Her....... LOL

All I know is Ball, Good....and (CONTEMPORARY CULT CLASSIC)

Okay so, there is no point in this really...it's something my boy Charles aka "Nard" sent to me out of the blue. I wonder how he'd feel if HIS dog "Rocko" was like hand banana...even though he's sorta off anyways!

LL COOL "HEY"- Liquid Leggins, not for members only.

So I've been noticing this trend of super shiny leggings since the latter part of fall of 2009. And lo' and behold it seemed to have exploded during the not so cold, not so warm days during the winter season. They are appropriately named Liquid Leggings. I personally love them on women, and compliment them, friend, family or fan all the time. I have heard a lot of women speak highly of them, and a few denounce them as tacky. But for the most part they just do a body GOOD!

Either way they are here to stay for a while. There is even a whole blog on leggings. So ladies Yay or Neigh? Fellas I think it's a yay all the way! :)

Help Heal Her ------> Haiti needs our help.

I usually don't like to post blogs about tragedies because the world is filled with enough bad news as it is, but I had to do so for this cause. As most should know by now, The country of Haiti experienced the greatest disaster of it's time on Tuesday. It was an earthquake that devastated the entire nation and subsequently the world! It registered at 7.0 on the Richter scale, which is Major, and had about 30+ aftershocks some of which were even higher! The death toll has unofficially been clocked at almost 100,000 or more. Truly sad.
More information on CNN.com

In every effort to support the cause I have done research on the best way to contribute for relief efforts and have found the site: Charity Watch to be helpful in your search , thanks to an old friend that works for the IRS who came up with the site.

Let's do all we can to educate ourselves about this tragedy and help in any way we can to support the Haitians and all affected.

"...Over and Out..." Roger!

So I saw a young girl playing with her baby sister or brother the other day and I couldn't help to wonder how exaggerated her/his crying was when their older sibling kept messing with them. Because 5 minutes later the baby was over it...whatever 'it' was.

Now as babies grow older, they are taught and 'programmed' certain doctrines into their life. Like how to talk and listen; how to laugh and cry; and of course how to love and hate. Ultimately these doctrines are all influenced by parental and environmental factors.

In the past, it would beget me as to why on earth it would take so long for a person to get over an incident, no matter how small in magnitude it was. As opposed to how GOD forgave the world of all it's sins combined, through Jesus.

And it hit me... it's just the way they were 'programmed'. And of course the other huge fact; they are not GOD.

So can they be de-programmed. Now I think that all depends on if they want to be or not.

To me it's like losing weight. Some people seem to do all they can to get rid of a few pounds and it never goes when they want it to, until some crisis comes along. Others, well others are open to change depending on their level of openess.

It's hard for a person so set in their ways to forgive or forget an issue or major inconvenience in their life. Weather it was via a person, place or thing.

Dwelling on that issue can be extremely detrimental for forward progress. There is only one other viable option in that case. When down and out and there is no way to deal with it... you are gonna have to shut up and do like the pic above says:

GET OVER IT

Time of the essence? Don't feel like wasting more...?

Give 'em a LIL' PUFF of.....

AZIZZ "Lets Go Lets Go"

Check out the blazing new single from Azizz!!!!!!!

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"...Oh baby what's your name?..."

My remix to the popular drunk birthday girl club song. Click play below to go, go, go shorty...

My 1st Poem

I think I posted this once but ehnn who cares here it is again:


It wasn't really about my shadow (Duhhh)


There through my brightest moments and my darkest plights

You ride with me by day, but seem parked at night

I know you are always there, sometimes real subtle

You've shared all my joy, and harbored all my troubles

Through the hardest thunder storms and lightening

Your presence has always been calm and inviting

But of late, after the rain and the morning mist

I have noticed my shadow, has a longer drift

Less meaning and heart like a shorter kiss

Unless I'm dreaming, my thoughts are missed

I used to stumble, you would soften my fall

Now when I trip, I feel you less, often, not at all

I would walk for days to a fork in the road

Then you brought me comfort, with the course that I chose

Now when I come to a trail and don't know the way

I cannot see you around; you have lingered down the lane

And now I feel a pain, it's soft but evident

My shadow has gone astray, yet it seems it never went

Omnipotent, omnidirectional, omnipresent

How something can be so obvious and yet not so apparent?

Perhaps I lose sight that no matter the outcome

You'll always be apart of me until my light's gone

Someone needs to see me....

HI!

Back to the Future.

So I tried to stay on the Music and Arts tip because some of the fellas said I was getting soft with all the relationship talk on the blog. But I had to come back to it again with a recent conversation I had with a friend. Like I stated earlier in a blog: a new year is equivalent to new beginnings, new endeavors etc. So revisiting things in the past can be immensly detrimental. (especially damaged projects, people, perspectives).

"But what if?"

Well, what if, what?

What if the moons, stars and the planets are perfectly aligned with each other, and all parameters were good, a fail-safe switched put in place and blah blah blah...what then?

Then you take a personal risk...amongst other things.

But ultimately it is up to you to make that decision. Do you want to risk going backwards and potentially wasting time and energy unless it is worth it?

When is it worth it? When it's something or someone you love and/or can't do without.

And how can you tell when you have a person like this. Here's a test:

If you can't stop thinking about a person, and almost everything you do or say or smells reminds you of them and if you think about them when you are with someone else, then one of two things must happen, you must get some sort of closure, or you still have intense subdued feelings for them.

Some Scenarios:

Maybe an ex that ended up in Jail, or relocated for some reason (job, new relationship, change)....maybe they evolved ways while locked up or while removed from what he/she knew from before.

Or maybe a daughter that was super wild and out of control....maybe she went into the army, went overseas and shaped her act up.

Or maybe it's an idea you had for a businuess... couldn't get the backers or investors you needed because you didn't have the right knowledge at the time....maybe you went and studied and hired resources that helped gain investors etc

All the above are scenarios of "what if's" on the positive end for you...

But what if it's too late?

I for one never like to rush into things because you never want to get stuck with something you are not prepared for. It's kinda like going into battle with the wrong type of resources and getting stomped or stuck (circa Vietnam and Afghanistan). I know some others that may rush because they feel that their time is running out, or that they have learnt from a previous relationship and that they are capable to figure indescrepancies out. But it's not always the case.

I say, once again never assume (refer back to this blog).

At the end of the day, you're going to have to do what's right for you because if you don't love yourself or treat yourself the way you want to be loved and treated, then the next man, woman or thing won't.

So, I say go back to the future (or the past lol) if it's divinely worth it. If not, keep your tunnel vision focused on a happier future and never turn back to what was lost in the past....cut off all ties.

A quote to live by: "It's easy to get lost, but very hard to find your way back"

That's why GOD is my map and guide. Cheers.

I hope this helps you ;)

Let me tickle your fancy.......MISS FANCIE to be exact!

"I am an interesting person. I'm not trying to be a DJ or Fashionista. Fashion allows me to dress up in my emotions. Music allows me to express myself in ways that words cannot define. I just want to share the things that I fancy in life!"


Those are the words of my good friend Ayana aka "Ms. Fancie". Ever wanted to discover art, music and fashion through the eyes of an individual with natural personality and substance, who knows what she's talking about (and looks good while doing it LOL). Well then that would be Ms. Fancie. Make sure you subscribe to her blog.... www.MissFancie.com

.....Ok Ayana...you can give me that $100 in cash or in my paypal ...lol (JOKE)

Sarah Fasha, a woman's woman!

Check out my good friend Sarah Fasha. She's an aspiring Model/Actress and Motivational Speaker (really!!!)

She's gained my respect as an individual that really puts in time and money along with blood sweat and tears for what they are passionate about. I have had the priviledge to work with her in the past, and will be doing more projects with her in upcoming months

So make sure you stay tuned and check her out on her site with all vital information at www.SarahFasha.com the epitome of a working Model!

Vanity Rich - Beauty Tip - Pimple Fix

I came across this site while on twitter. She's a DC based Beauty and Make Up Officionado. Interesting tip....ladies or ummm whomever, lol try it out and let me know how it works. I am not prone to pimples thank GOD but if I were, I dunno if I'd be keen on using this. Oh I had an ex-girlfriend that I used to try and be supportive with about clearing them joints up...but she just wouldn't listen to me...

Pro - Activ only works if you are PROACTIVE in using it.....

more blogs coming...it's gonna be a busy day!

King Kan, Jumz, Product, Carty-Yeah - Lemonade REMIX !

Remix to Gucci Mane's "Lemonade" this features myself with three of the most talented unsigned artists that I know. Support great music y'all! Thanks

2 can play that game.....or Jump Off!

Below is an article written by my homie TC y'all may know him from his affiliations wtih Hypnotikentertainment.com and Urbanflavorz.com but either way you, you definitely have to check out his views on relationships and the constant battle between the sexes. This is great read right here. Enjoy and thanks TC.


"Infidelity is complicated. There are now stages and categories of extramarital affairs and as you see on the news every week, things are starting to get messy. Even though it's been happening since the first relationship was created, "creeping" has now been brought from the shadows to the limelight. I refuse to contribute to anymore about the golf player who recently was "caught up," but his situation made me think, "Why do these ladies settle for being number 2?" The answer is complicated. Some of them don't see themselves as number two, some of them aren't even number 2, and some of them are just f*cking groupies. Let me break this down for you real quick:

A true "Number 2" is different from these random chickens who are out here tricking for Louboutins. A number 2 is someone who the married party actually has deep rooted feelings for. They could be their "soulmate," or "the one who got away." I know you're thinking, "Well if they are soulmates, why didn't they marry THEM?" You never know the reason for that; maybe they never got along, maybe other circumstances prevented them from tying the knot. A number 2 gets privileges, trips, gifts, and a long term contract. If something ever goes wrong in the marriage, the number two is next up, and ready to roll. Alicia Keys is a number two. Had poor Swizz Beatz calling Mashonda with the Harlem Nights quote: "Yeah, Mashonda, it's Swizzie. Yeah lookit, I ain't never coming home no more. Take it easy."

Not to be confused with the "Number 2," is the "jumpoff." Lots of ladies who creep with married men think they are 'Number 2's" or wish to be, but they aren't. See, jumpoffs don't get the same treatment as number 2's. They might get shoe/suit money here, rent money there, but they are only used for one thing. Some are used for sex, some are used as a trophy, and some are only called when the married party is in town for the weekend. Jumpoffs are the ones who will make the front page of the news when they realize that they will never become a number 2. Their frustration will cause them to suicide bomb their way into the media, telling on both themselves AND the married person they crept with. Number 2's have their own agenda, so this wouldn't even be an option for them. Those jumpoffs however, are independent contractors, and have nothing to lose.

In a perfect world, folks wouldn't be out here creeping in the first place, so none of this would even be an issue. But in a world of greed, deception, booty injections and Vigra, we have to put up with who is stepping out on who, with what, when, and for how long? And please don't think this is just about women who run the streets with married men, because trust and believe there are just as many women who have their number 2's and their jumpoffs as well! Their husbands might treat them well, but they are either swagless, broke, or their penis is teensy weensy. So to all of you "other women" out there, as you get ready to meet your married boo for a night of undercover fun, look in the mirror and ask yourself, which one are you? "




TC@URBANFLAVORZ.COM

NEW YEAR...NOW WHAT?

Well first of HAPPY BELATED NEW YEAR!!!

Yes we all made it through another year... shoot a whole DECADE (remember the Y2K scare?!?). Well let's take a brief look back at what we experienced and survived last year as I share a few events that stood out to me:

...Barack Obama 1st African American President of the United States is sworn in...

...Flight 1549 emergency lands in the Hudson River

...Rod Blagojevich wanted to shine at a high price...

...Swine Flu's new strain surfaced in Hong Kong prompting H1N1 mania...



...the KING of Pop passed away...we still wanna know 'why?'


...Sotomayor breaks barriers for women & Latinos & shows strength in adversity...


...The "Lion" Ted Kennedy (one of my idols), dies after a lengthy battle with brain cancer...


...the Yankees win the World Series for the 27th time...

And this is just a cross section of what affected the US and eventually the world. There were other memorable events like the fort Hood military shootings, the health care debacle, Twilight the movie...for the 3rd time, The Kardashians, balloon boy and his hoax flight, Susan Boyle the 47 year old British idol that dreamed a dream, and of course the end of year cake topper...the attempted terrorist-like Suicide bombing on Northwest Airlines flight 253 on Christmas Day...by a Nigerian no less (tsk, tsk, tsk shame on him...I am part Nigerian)

Well, looking back, I am grateful and happy to at least be alive with a roof over my head, clothes on my back and food to eat and most of all a healthy body and HEALTH INSURANCE!!!! haha...no really...well yeah really!

So with every new Year comes the age old adage of a New Year's resolution.

I'm happy to say for a 2nd year in a row, that quite frankly.....I have none. What I will do is not go backwards and repeat the same mistakes I did last year and beyond. I suggest you do that (and the following) too:

Don't rekindle a past relationship especially if it was riddled with misunderstanding with no hope for compromise...look towards new ones because it's a BIG world out there and you never know who you miss by wasting time with someone that is a detriment to your progression.

Don't take the same path towards your goals, as you did last year. Especially if it was filled with obstacles and detours. Take the road less traveled, it makes all the difference...as Robert Frost says.

For those that have a similar demeanor as me...I am referring to the type of people that take the time out to help others, and make them happy...put a stop to that. It is less fulfilling if you don't take out the time to help yourself first and make you happy.

If you and/or friends have identified a problem. Don't be ashamed of it, and don't ignore it. Take care of it, because it will not go away and it will only get worse. You will only lose time, money and probably loved ones...it's happened to me before...and if you are reading this and questioning yourself, it is happening to you right now.

Lastly, learn to put your pride aside when it comes to matters of the heart, mind, body & soul. An ego (pride) is a bad thing if it is not earned...if that's the case lose it quick.

2010 should be another year filled with goals, and optimistic feats and joys. I pray it is that way for all of you; my friends...even those that don't think too highly of me right now...like you. lol sike

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!